I’m in such a mess. I didn’t even want to become a dad when my girlfriend told me she was pregnant. Now I’ve learned my boss is also expecting my child. My girlfriend and I have been together barely six months. I’m 29, she’s 26.
When she told me she was pregnant, I was shocked because parenthood wasn’t on the cards as far as I was concerned.
Still, she was adamant she wanted to keep the baby and over the weeks I’ve come around to the idea of being a dad. But our sex life has fallen away.
I work in an accounts department and my boss is lovely. She’s 34.
Last year my team went out and my boss had one too many. I told the others that I’d make sure she got home OK.
When we got to her flat, she insisted I went in with her and so I sent the taxi away thinking I’d make sure she had a couple of glasses of water before I left.
She sobered up pretty quickly and I must have been there a few hours.
When she suggested I stay over, I said I’d sleep on the sofa. Her answer was to lead me to her bedroom.
We had a cuddle, a kiss and then sex. I’d missed sex so much. It felt incredible.
We went for lunch yesterday and she told me she’s pregnant.
The baby is due three months after that with my girlfriend.
I desperately want her to have the baby terminated.
Psychologist says: You cannot insist she has an abortion – it is entirely her decision.
If she keeps the baby, you will have to tell your girlfriend because there are two innocent children being born into chaos.
They need to be supported financially and emotionally. Now you’ve absorbed the news, ask your boss how she plans to handle things at work.
At least you will then know whether it would be wise to find a new job.
You’ll have to beg and plead forgiveness from your girlfriend about your mistake and you are likely to lose her. But if the two babies are yours, there’s no alternative but to come clean.
My support pack Cheating: Can You Get Over It? will help you work things through with your girlfriend – if she allows it.
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